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Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl-A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship By Sherry Argov ( Adams Media )
Release Date: 2002-10-01
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Book Description
Do you feel like you are too nice? Sherry Argov’s Why Men Love Bitches delivers a unique perspective as to why men are attracted to a strong woman who stands up for herself. With saucy detail on every page, this no-nonsense guide reveals why a strong woman is much more desirable than a "yes woman" who routinely sacrifices herself. The author provides compelling answers to the tough questions women often ask: -Why are men so romantic in the beginning and why do they change? -Why do men take nice girls for granted? -Why does a man respect a woman when she stands up for herself? Full of much-needed advice, hilarious real-life relationship scenarios, "she says/he thinks" tables, and the author’s unique "Attraction Principles," Why Men Love Bitches gives you bottom-line answers. It helps you know who you are, stand your ground, and relate to men on a whole new level. Once you’ve discovered the feisty attitude men find so magnetic, you’ll not only increase the romantic chemistry in the relationship-you’ll gain your man’s love and respect with far less effort.
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 Good book for woman
I absolutely love this book. I don't want to play game but guy always act mostly the same thing in relationship. So this book made me think what went wrong.
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I wish I had read this book 20 years ago ( dominique100 )
Thank you Sherry! This is one of the best books I have read about relationships with men. In fact, I wish I had read this book 20 years ago. This should be the official guide for all women (all ages) adventuring into the dating world. The younger you read this book the greater your chances of succeeding in your relationships with men.
I am the typical nice girl. I am driven by emotions and when I meet a guy I like I see him as "the one" until proven otherwise. Therefore I automatically feel that I must give my 100% to that person. The problem with this approach is that giving your 100% too early in the relationship will make him feel as if he had it too easy and will make him go away looking for a better challenge. This book describes in a very simple and funny way something that we instinctively knew but couldn't put our finger on: These fantastic and interesting creatures called men are, very succinctly, "hunters" looking for their match... therefore women need to be the smart "strategist" prey.
I always wondered why relationships with the guys I liked never worked out while the guys I was not interested in were always chasing me. After reading this book it is clear that the reason was ME. It was amazing reading some of the examples about the typical mistakes women make that will kill the sparks on a relationship. More than one time it felt like I was reading my own diary...Depressing. It made me feel stupid and ignorant but at the same time it opened my eyes.
One note of caution: I have read some reviews stating that not all men are like the ones portrayed in this book, like if this book were about "jerks". This book is not about how "bad" men are or how "good" and mistreated girls are. I am pretty sure we all agree that inherent evil has nothing to do with sex. This book is about helping you understand basic rules of human nature and principles of relationships between sexes based on the fact that men and women are different and "think" differently. This book will give you the tools that you need in order to understand how men think and perceive your actions from their vantage point so you can make yours and your partner's dating experience more interesting and enduring
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Let me get this striaght. If a woman is acting like a total bitch toward me, that means she LIKES me? My mind is officially blown.
I'll bet women who take this book seriously are perfect for guys who take "The Game" by Neil Strauss seriously. I just hope I'm not the only single person left in this world who just wants to have a nice relationship with a nice person and not have play a bunch of silly mind games.
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I was ready to cancel the wedding...until I read this book ( arrowcase )
My fiance and I hit a really rough patch. He was acting annoyed by my pressence, stopped wanting to be intimate and seemed tense and upset all the time.
So I made the "nice girl" mistake by trying to be perfect for him -- cooking these huge, elaborate, expensive dinners, making sure the house was spotless, buying him little presents, etc. Nothing worked. I was convinced he had fallen out of love with me or was cheating.
Out of desperation, I went to the bookstore and grabbed a stack of relationship books hoping for some insight. One of the ones I came across was, "Why Men Love Bitches".
I read the chapter on nagging and realized that I complained A LOT to my fiance about EVERYTHING over and over again. I saw myself in that chapter and learned how I was pushing him away and nagging makes a woman come across as needy and unappealing. Also, the author explained that nagging is ineffective with both men and women because it makes the person being nagged feel like the nagger is trying to control them
I bought the book and immediately followed the advice of that chapter. I took my nagging from a 10 to a .5 and gave my fiance a little space. I also stopped sweating the small stuff, like how normally I'd go off on him for leaving his boots in the bathroom
The next day, my fiance did most of the things I normally nagged him about without asking (ie: making the bed, washing dishes, feeding the dog). Then, he came home from work early for the first time in a month and cooked me dinner.
We were intimate twice the following night (HE intiated it for once, not me!) and his whole attitude toward me is more like it used to be when we first started dating.
So yeah, this book may have a flaw or two in some people's eyes, but to me it's what you make of it. I think the best thing to do is read it and motify the advice to fit your particular situation. Thats what I did and it has been working great for me.
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Now I know why those men dumped me
I was going to start off saying I wish I had read this book sooner, before committing the nice girl mistakes in my past two relationships. But, if I hadn't gone through what I had gone through, I would have said the book's advice was crap - of course nice girls win. Which guy has not said he likes the girl-next-door type?
But now I know why the relationships went downhill the moment I went from independent woman to needy girlfriend. I gave up my needs and let my happiness and schedule revolve around the man. I now solemnly swear to be happy and confident regardless of whether I am alone or with a man. Only I can be responsible for my own happiness.
That said, one area that the book could be improved on is to give some advice on when a girl can give, albeit a little. Like when the guy waits too long to make his move, a little signal of interest could whet his appetite. Otherwise he may conclude the girl is not interested at all and give up.
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