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Why Good People Do Bad Things: How to Stop Being Your Own Worst Enemy
By Debbie Ford ( HarperOne )
Release Date: 2008-03-01
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Why Good People Do Bad Things exposes the pervasive and often hidden impulses that influence our everyday decisions. The headlines are full of stories of good people gone astray. They show up on the evening news and are splashed across the weekly tabloids.

In many ways, these sad stories have become a national obsession. Yet countless other acts of self-destruction and sabotage take place in our families, in our communities, in our circle of friends. Despite good intentions, “good people” do very bad things—often without understanding why.

New York Times bestselling author Debbie Ford guides us into the heart of the duality that unknowingly operates within each one of us: the force that compels us to live by our values, give and receive love, and be a contributing member of the community; and the force that holds us back, sabotages our efforts, and repeatedly steers us toward bad choices.

Ford begins with an examination of what she calls the Beach-Ball Effect—the way in which suppressed emotions eventually rise to the surface—revealing the origins of self-destructive behavior. By describing the never-ending battle between our light and dark sides and then identifying the signposts for potential disaster, Ford helps us understand how we end up damaging the lives we've worked so hard to create. She then breaks new ground by helping us recognize the masks we wear to protect ourselves, including the People Pleaser, the Victim, the Bully, Mister Cool, and the Jokester. Understanding these masks and what they cover up allows us to go beneath the surface, wake up from denial, and become the person we always intended to be.

With Why Good People Do Bad Things Ford has created her most enduring, expansive, and powerful work to date. Providing the tools to unlock the patterns of self-sabotage, Ford ultimately knocks down the façade of the false self and shows us how to heal the split between light and dark and live the authentic life within our reach.


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Product Reviews:
  Shame sells!!!! 
Being a not so avid reader, this latest book by Debbie Ford has proven to keep me reading. I truly wanted to know how to stop being my own worse enemy, and i did! My favorite part is where she goes into detail on the different "masks" that people wear to hide who they truly are. From the "entitled supporter" to "Mr. Cool", Debbie never lets us down in tearing away at the different personas we have. If you do nothing else, buy this book for the stories of Private & Public acts of shame that lead up to our own sabotage & destruction.
  trying to hold down 20 beach balls at the same time 
I love Debbie Ford. She writes in a way that completely resonates with me. While reading this brillant book, I had a major "aha" moment. You know when you try to hold a beach ball under water for any length of time, and you take your attention off the ball for just one second...it comes blasting up to the surface. Well, I realized that is exactly what I do when I try to hide, or pretend parts of myself don't exist. As soon as I look away, all those so called horrible qualities come blasting up for all to see. Debbie does a beautiful job of explaining this and much, much more in her latest gift to the world.
  Negative, Depressing, Demoralizing 
I tried to get into this CD - I really tried to listen and learn. Yes, I could relate to a lot of what she was saying but it was so harsh, dark, and negative. I felt my heart sinking and my soul sinking as I listened. On the first two CD's at least, she made everything sound so hopeless and like at any minute each of us WILL go "postal." It wasn't even very original - who wasn't already aware that a troubled childhood might lead to a troubled adulthood until you start coming to terms with it? I also ended-up feeling so guilty for the times I had scolded my children for inappropriate behavior. Life is hard enough - I had to stop listening at a certain point and listen to other authors who inspire hope while at the same time helping you deal with your emotional challenges. Try Mary O'Malley's books and CD's.
  Life Changing Book ( gumboeddy )
This is critical book in these turbulent times to make it through the demanding issues we all face both in our external world and our internal world. This book has all the pieces to help you make sense out of complicated emotional and spiritual issues.The "Antidotes" were just what I needed to help me deal with my problems.My "Mask" was such a cover-up for so much of my real self.

This is a life changing book that anyone who wants to change their life would have to read. Don't miss this book!
  Healing the Split 
I always hate reading a book that is so vague that when I put it down I have no idea what I just read. NOT SO with Why Good People Do Bad Things: How to Stop Being Your Own Worst Enemy.

In this book, Debbie Ford gives you signposts of disaster and antidotes to help you heal. I so appreciated the practicality of this book!